The story of a day in the life of an unsuccessful office worker

11:08am Delighting in the success of others

In corporate life, it’s difficult to delight in the success of others. 

Some people experience mixed emotions upon hearing about the success of others.  

I don’t. I just feel pure envy and jealousy. But I have learned to apply a façade of graciousness. 

 

What I say (with manufactured smiles and enthusiasm): 

·        “Congratulations on your promotion, you deserve it.” 

·        “Wow. Love your new car. A convertible. That’s really cool.” 

·        “I’m so happy for you both. You two are made for each other.” 

 

How I really feel 

·        “Who’d you sleep with to get your third promotion this year while I’m stuck in mediocrity going nowhere.” 

·        “Why do you get to cruise around with the stereo pumping and the top down while I’m stuck in my old Volkswagen which won’t start half the time?”                                                                                                     ·        “Why do you two get to be smiling lovebirds while I wallow endlessly in desperate solitude?” 

Little do I know, I am about to be hit by a bombshell - some ‘great’ news from a colleague which will cause extreme disappointment for me. (details next post) 

Once again, I will need to conceal envy with a manufactured facade of graciousness.

Comments

  1. December 12th, 2007 | 9:39 pm

    There’s a word I’ve always liked - schadenfreude - which means taking pleasure in someone else’s misfortune. There’s a little of schadenfreude in all of us. Your post gives me a better idea of why that is so.

  2. December 14th, 2007 | 5:48 am

    Hi Brad

    “Schadenfreude” - I must confess that I’ve never heard of that one.

    However, by your definition, our office worker will feel even more of a sense of schadenfreude in a post scheduled for next Tuesday, where he will take delight upon hearing of the misfortune of another colleague.

    I must congratualate you on the extent of your vocabulary - your family and friends need never purchase a dictionary!

    Cheers

    Andrew

  3. December 24th, 2007 | 8:46 pm

    Schadenfreude is definitely the way to go. In my native culture, it could be similar to what is called Crab Mentality.

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